Feeling Unlovable / Not loved enough

Two basic but very important human needs are feeling loved and accepted. Ideally, the first people in our lives who should love and accept us are our parents, which creates the foundation with which we relate to our peers. It also creates the foundation with which we form friendships, pursue romantic relationships, and even work with our co-workers’. Unfortunately, this doesn’t always happen, and a number of people either grow up feeling unloved or other life circumstances cause them to feel unloved.

Feeling unloved and unaccepted can manifest in various ways from feeling like there is something innately wrong with oneself to feeling undeserving of love and acceptance from other people. This feeling of not deserving love can come from a place of having made mistakes in the past that an individual strongly regrets, or not being loved by their parents, or something happened that you don’t understand. Even relatives and school teachers can I self-sabotaging behavior and pushing other people away.

There is no one single cause for why someone would feel unloved and unaccepted, but there are some recurring predispositions that increase the likelihood of feeling this way. These include past experience with abuse and trauma, insecure attachment styles, low self-esteem, and mood disorders like depression.

The psychological scars that come with feeling unloved and unaccepted are often profound but can be treated with therapy. One revolutionary new approach to therapy that can successfully address these negative feelings toward oneself is Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT).

In treating feelings of being unlovable a therapist who specializes in RTT works by instructing the client through hypnosis to directly communicate with their subconscious mind. Not only will this help identify the causes for their feelings of being unlovable, but the RTT therapist can also help the client remove those mental roadblocks. Addressing the cause directly will not only help the client to start recognizing their inherent lovability again, but it will also help them start living a full, authentic life.

Vickie Barkley is a practitioner of RTT who trained directly under Marisa Peer. Vickie works with clients to address the issues in their lives that’s preventing them from recognizing their inherent lovability and helps them transform those limiting thoughts with positive results. To learn more about how RTT can be used to treat feelings of unlovability, contact Vickie for a discovery call.